I have days where I feel like super mom and others where I just want to cry at my desk at work. Sometimes I really struggle to be a working mom. The option to be a stay at home mom has never really been an option. If we want a house, vehicles, travel I have to work so we can afford to do and have nice things. There are ways anyone could make it work and struggle but I’d rather let my kids have the option to do sports, have nice things, and do things I wasn’t able to do.
I grew up poor and was never able to do dance or sports, go on a nice vacation, go to movies, etc. Our clothes growing up were bought second-hand stores most of the time. New things were bought on sale at a cheap price. Don’t get me wrong I still love shopping at thrift stores and so do my children. Clearance is the first place I check for things but having an option to spend a little more on something new and nice is awesome. Here is a list of some of the things I struggle with and think most moms probably do.
Life Struggles of the Working Mom
For a working mom it’s non-existent my kids get to go to daycare while I am at work dealing with crazy people. Watching other moms go to local events that are only during the day. Our city does an education type thing at the local library. Guess who can’t go at noon to an event because I work till 3:30 every day?
Making sure your kids are being taken care of while you are at work is always a worry. We had an amazing babysitter when my kids were younger but she had to move far away. Trust me if she would have stayed or moved closer to my work I would of went with her. I cried the day she told me she had to quit because they were moving. Then we had a sweet Spanish lady watch our boys she was clean and nice and fed the kids well. They had a hard time being there because they were the only ones with occasionally her grandkids.
They are now at a big daycare center which is good for social aspect learning. It was just hard to go to the big center because I felt they didn’t have as much one on one time. I do feel a little different about it now the ladies that work they are so good with my boys and they love all the friends they make. It’s always hard to know if your kids are being well taken care of with a babysitter you hear of horror stories all the time and it freaks you out.
Um unless you want to do a playdate between 4 and 5 they don’t happen at our house. I’m a lucky one and get home by 4:15 every day but we also leave at 6 am. It’s hard to see other friends with or without kids hanging out enjoying the day with each other.
Nope couldn’t even if I wanted to because guess what time the meetings are at? 10 am on a work day. I can’t go to work 30 mins away for a few hours, drive 30 mins to school, then 30 mins back to work. It would end up being 2 and a half hours gone for 1 meeting.
Things Break in your house–
So when your garage door breaks and they are like we can come out today at 12 can you do that? Huh well, I work so let’s schedule it 2 to 3 weeks out when my husband has a weekday off. In the mean time, I am dragging kids and myself through the front door with all our crap.
If we have a sick kid both my husband and I have to decide who has to miss work usually it’s me so it kills my PTO fast. Normally I am lucky to have 5 days of 15 days for actual fun or to do PTO.
You get called from school or daycare with your kid is sick so it takes you 40 mins to get home and your poor kid has to suffer at school/daycare until you get there.
You have to take PTO because who else can watch your kids when everyone you know works.
Unless it’s done by daycare my kids don’t go to summer camp because it starts usually at 8 am or later and is over with by 3 pm while my works hours are 7 am to 3:30 pm 🙁
Helping in Class–
When you child wants you to come and help in class because all the other moms do. You have to decline or just send store bought crap because you can’t even if you wanted to.
Presentations and programs–
When you can make it, it’s usually to the program. When our children do presentations I usually just sent them with a good luck you will do good. Although working for a tech company I do have the skills to make some cool slideshows so they maybe a little better if the teacher allows it 🙂
Feeling like you can’t relax-
After working a full day I just want to come home and clear my head. Honestly most days I don’t feel like I can. As soon as I walk in the door the dirty dishes, clothes, floors, animals are all staring me in the eyes. So going and just enjoying a show is hard because I need to clean up the house or my kids need mommy loves etc. When we have sports it’s straight to the stove to cook dinner before we go. Most of the time when we are doing sports I am not even prepared for dinner so we end up eating out. We eat out maybe more than we should because I just don’t have time.
Places give away free things like a free slurpy, free entree, etc. Now if you wake up early enough you might be able to grab one if they are open. Going on a quick break wouldn’t work because the lines would be way too long. Once you get off work get kids etc you are usually too late and they are sold out. I wished I could just go whenever it not be too busy and get a free thing but life doesn’t work that way. We tried to get the free slurpy on slurpy day and missed it they had stopped giving them away. Dang 🙁
While I struggle with all these things sometimes being a working mom is well worth it. My children get to have interactions with other children their own age at daycare. I get to socialize and use my intellect at work. Cool vacations are a must every few years. We have a nice house and some nice belongings. My children seem pretty happy for the most part. Yes, I do hear them complain about having to go to daycare, school, etc but who doesn’t. Sometimes I don’t want to go to work but I have to.
I know the other end of this stay at home moms have their own struggles and I have read a lot of articles on it so I feel you. Things aren’t always greener on the other side!
Who doesn’t wish I could do a little more for my children, home, pets but there is a limit to how much we can do. It’s hard to find the perfect balance of work and play. From the outside, it may seem like I’ve got it all figured out but I promise I don’t.